That being said, I'm pretty psyched to be able to blog in super-style. Maybe I'll start posting more regularly. Or, maybe not. Maybe I'll have to start Skyping with all my many boyfriends, since my new fancy computer has a webcam. We'll have to see. It's harder than you'd think to be this hi-tech; just so many options.
These last two weeks have been jam-packed. Well, jam-packed for me. My brother came to visit for a week, and it was a lot of fun. Well, it was for me and the kids...I'm assuming you all can guess how Jeff reacted to it. Yep... in our room for five straight days. You know, sometimes I forget how different our lives are from everyone else's. I mean, does this surprise me or the kids? No. Is it something that other people just don't understand? Yes. After 13 years, I've accepted that there are things about Jeff that are permanent--like his hatred of social expectations. Just like he's accepted there are things about me that are permanent--my NEED to be social. I guess I'm putting this out there, because even after all this time, people still don't believe me when I try to explain that this is the way we work. It's weird, yes. It's awkward for others, yes. But honestly I'm married to my best friend. I love him more than words can say, and I know that he loves me and the kids. We see it daily. I'll trade awkward moments any day over being married to someone that is the life of the party, yet maybe wouldn't be as tuned into me or our little ones. I hope that makes sense, because that's how it is. And I won't apologize for it, anymore. To my family, or anyone else. It's time to accept it, and just move on. Whew...that felt really great to just freely put out there. My siblings see that the kids and I are happy, and they try to understand our family dynamic. That's all I ask. Just for people to try.
Anyhoo, I got to know my brother, Jayson, a little better. One of the things he said to me was he saw how great Riley and Cole and Sydney are. He knows they live in a family that truly loves them, and they feel good here. He told me that was proof that whatever our parenting style is, it's working. And working well. Amen.
He surprised me with a year membership to Gold's Gym. I'm loving it. So much. Today Muffy and I met at the one in Orem and I did some weights, (pathetically), and then hopped on the elliptical machine for a while. One thing I know is that working out makes me feel really good about myself. Maybe I can't physically see the results? But it can't be as bad as just NOT doing anything, right? I want Jeff to go with me. Just to try it. And I know he will, for me. Cause that's how he is.
7 comments:
Good for you Rainey, I'm glad you had a good time with your brother. Glad that you have such a sweet family and that you're happy. I know Jeff couldn't live without you.
Oh! I am so very glad that you had a good time with Jayson. And no more apologizing for Jeff is a good thing, because he is totally awesome in my book. And obviously in yours too. And now we can Skype!!!
Oh my goodness. We must workout together. I'm becoming so lame and never go anymore. Me and Jess love going to the hip hop class. I was about to say WE suck at it, but Jess is pro, I suck, but it's way fun. You saying all that about Jeff made me feel special for when he does come out and talk to me :)
Kory is so hard to work out with, he complains the ENTIRE TIME. I hope for you sake Jeff is better.
I love working out, I wish I had a membership, that is soooo awesome! Your brother rocks! Before I got married, having a membership to a gym was a priority, that has obviously changed...
I think your family is great, and congrats on the new computer that is sweat!
I think men and women are generally very different. I went to a conference where they explained that not only do more men have aspergers but traits of aspergers are generally male attributes. (Social, expressiveness, logic etc.) I'm not saying Jeff has aspergers, I have joked about both he and dad but I don't know and shouldn't say that but I do think that the Andersons have quite a few of the characteristics. That being said, a girl with aspergers who marries a male might have a lot more in common in their marriage rather than the other way around. I also think that where autism is a disorder - I don't think aspergers is. I just think it's a different way of thinking and looking at the world.
I also think that when there is company over that only one knows really well such as a sibling growing up with them, the other is likely to feel more reserved and uncomfortable. I know I do. Even Matt as social as he can be would go and hide when I had friends over that he didn't know.
Happy Thanksgiving! Your brother looks so much like your dad! Crazy. I wish you were my mom. I totaly want an iPad :)
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